Trans Support

Becoming trans inclusive

Historically FFLAG has, since 1993, been a charity dedicated to supporting parents and their lesbian, gay and bisexual daughters and sons. We have mostly been parents of LGB children ourselves and, as such, have felt most able to support those whose experiences are similar to our own. But times change.

Recent LGBT legislation in the UK such as the Equality Act 2010 and the legalisation of same-sex marriages in England, Wales and Scotland in 2014 have been very welcome. Also, society in general and younger generations in particular have become more inclusive in their understanding of differing sexual orientation. However, along with these changes, we have seen a substantial increase in the number of young people being referred to support services for help with transgender issues.

Many of the enquiries we currently receive from parents are from those with trans youngsters. The difficulties trans youngsters face are not the same as those for LGB youngsters (who face issues relating to their sexuality), since theirs relate to their gender identity. However, the issues may indeed cross the boundaries of gender and sexuality which our society has so rigidly enforced. General understanding of trans issues in our society is still limited and waiting times for specialist support are very long. We therefore want to extend our remit to include support for family and friends of trans people. FFLAG has no paid staff and we are just eight trustees but we are working in partnership with people in the trans community, their families and other organisations to build our capacity. Local groups which are affiliated with us are becoming trans inclusive to varying degrees.

So far, we have:

  • Updated the FFLAG web site to include trans issues.
  • Appointed the parent of a trans young person to our Board of Trustees.
  • Published new support booklets ‘A Guide for Family and Friends: Transgender’, ‘How Do I Tell My Parents: I’m Transgender” and ‘How Do I Tell My Children: I’m Transgender’ available on request or from our Downloads.

We will continue to:

  • Work in partnership with trans organisations to avoid replicating their work.
  • Review and update our current literature and also produce new material.
  • Appoint more parents of trans youngsters to our Board of Trustees.
  • Make sure inclusion of trans issues in our publications is led by trans people themselves and their families.

We are still developing our trans support and are not now setting ourselves up as the experts but rather are looking to those who have personally faced these situations themselves to work with us, for the sake of those who are looking for help now. One of our affiliates, Free2b Alliance, has published a useful guide for parents of trans children. Click the link below to go to the page on their website from where it can be downloaded and to see links to further useful resources.

Visit Free2b Alliance

If you would like to be a part of the work that FFLAG is doing, please contact us.

A Transition Blog

Adam documents his journey in the hope of making others realise that it’s okay not to be a heterosexual cisgender person.

“I’ve had a Tumblr blog for the past few years but wanted to try and progress onto something more substantial. In 2016 you wouldn’t think it’s necessary to explain to people what being transgender means, and that it’s not something that will completely ruin your chance of having a long happy life, but it seems that there’s still a bit of work to do on understanding and acceptance. Hopefully I can shed some light on that and show that you can in fact function as a human-being, have friends, relationships, a family, a job and serve as a decent member of society as a trans person.”

You can access Adam’s blog here